Should You Give Up On The First Date?

What happens when there’s no spark on the first date? Should you just give up? Or should you give it a try?

I’m sure this has happened to you. You go on a date with someone that isn’t so bad. You guys have a couple of drinks over some interesting conversation but there’s just no spark. There’s no magic, no spontaneous combustion, no fireworks, no nothing!

If you look at the bright side, you just gained a new friend. But really, a friend isn’t exactly what you’re looking for at that particular moment.

That Special Feeling

It’s that special feeling you’re looking for. It’s that special feeling of excitement that you can’t explain. Call it chemistry or whatever, it’s that special feeling when your heart skips a beat and your knees get weak. But it’s not there. You just can’t feel it.

Too Early To Tell

Some may say that it’s very early to tell. You can’t exactly tell on the first date. But you had felt it before on your other first dates. It had happened to you before. You know what you’re looking for and it’s just not there. You assess the moment. You look at your date closely just to try to capture some sort of feeling but it’s futile.

Then you look ahead. You picture you and your date doing all sorts of things. Walking in the park, laughing, maybe even getting intimate only to end up realizing you’re daydreaming about a headless partner. You just can’t see yourself with him. Related: Men and the Tao Of Badass

He’s Also Not Into You?

It wouldn’t be too much of an issue if he, too, weren’t in to you. That really wouldn’t be so much of a dilemma for you. You can just get it over and done with and move on to the next date with whomever. After all, that’s the beauty of dating. It gives the freedom to move on to the next possible partner. No hard feelings; it’s good bye and nice meeting you. It’s all pretty much part of the whole process of dating.

He’s really showing sincere interest and he might just pop the question, “Can I see you again?” Of course, you can always say, ” Yes!” At the same time, avoid his calls. Or you can be upfront and say, “I don’t think that’s a good idea.”

But He’s Exerting Every Kind Of Effort

Now it becomes a real challenge if you know, deep inside, that your date is exerting every kind of effort to make the evening special. He’s a total gentleman sharing funny and interesting stories. He’s also taking some time trying to get to know you. You know he’s not putting on a show just to get something out of you for the night.

He’s really showing sincere interest and he might just pop the question, “Can I see you again?” Of course, you can always say, ” Yes!” At the same time, avoid his calls. Or you can be upfront and say, “I don’t think that’s a good idea.” You can sound and act like a total jerk just because you couldn’t get that special feeling. All of a sudden, you don’t know what to say and you’re thinking to yourself, “What the heck is wrong with me?”

So What’s The Point?

The point is that you can’t exactly tell on the first date. You’re face-to-face with a decent guy that’s exerting every kind of effort to make the evening worthwhile. Unfortunately, all you’re looking for is that special feeling of excitement. Well, I think that’s pretty unfair. Related read: Tao of Badass teaches men to become interesting to women

So I think it really wouldn’t hurt to give it another try. I’m not saying that you should settle for less. That’s totally different from giving your decent date another try. All I’m saying is that … maybe … just maybe … you can get that special feeling on the second date.

What do you think? Do you agree?

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